The Bible of Sex

Year after year, decade after decade, when someone asks me what my favorite book on sex is, I answer easily: The Guide To Getting It On by Paul Joannides. It’s the bible of sex, I tell people. It really has everything you will ever need to know about sex. As the years have gone by …

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Food Glorious Food!

Are libido-enhancing foods for real? I get random emails about food daily, and I’m guessing you do too. Foods that can lift mood and improve mental health, foods that give you better workouts, foods that lower blood pressure, increase energy, reduce inflammation, and of course foods that boost libido. It’s difficult to find the truth …

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Pop Quiz!

When was the last time you let a sexual partner in on what makes you feel good? Go on, I’ll give you a minute…  Are those crickets I hear? Okay…let’s try another one: When was the last time you asked a sexual partner to adjust the way they were doing something? Time’s up. Wait – …

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Stop, For Just A Moment

The Moment “Oh the coming- out- of- nowhere moment when, nothing happens no what- have- I -to- do – today- list maybe half a moment the rush of traffic stops. The whir of I should be, I should be, I should be slows to silence, the white cotton curtains hanging still.” By: Marie Howe I …

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Why You Should Never Fake an Orgasm

Picture it: You’re hooking up and it’s just not happening: an orgasm remains out of reach. Maybe you’re feeling great and enjoying yourself, but you just can’t get there. Whatever is happening just isn’t making you feel good. In this situation, many women would pretend to have an orgasm. They might do it to hurry …

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Mom and Vibrator in the Same Sentence?

Times have changed. I mean, really, REALLY changed. When was the last time you saw a grown woman express her sexual frustration to her adult daughter on TV? Never? Well, enter one of (IMHO) the greatest series to ever hit the small screen – Jane the Virgin. Things were so steamy in S5 E6 (Chapter …

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The Sex Talk

Many of us have heard the camp song, “If all the raindrops were lemon drops and gum drops, Oh what a world that would be….” This song depicts an idealized picture of reality. In a recent YouTube video called “What the Sex Talk Looks Like Now,” a father is attempting to have “The Talk” with …

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Let’s Talk About Impotence

My friends and I talk a lot about sex. We talk about the sex we’re having, how to make sex better, and occasionally about awkward interactions we’ve had in the bedroom (or sofa, or shower). But there was something we’d never spoken about until recently: impotence. I always thought of impotence as something that older …

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Do I Need Therapy and What’s it all About Anyway?

Lately my go to medium for entertainment is podcasts! After listening The Shrink Next Door – “a story about power, control and turning to the wrong person for help for three decades” – I felt the need to blog about the therapy process. This podcast is a cautionary tale that therapy is not intended to …

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